How can I reach orgasm with and without sex toys?
SOMETIMES, A SMALL change of body positions can make a big difference during sex. The right position can turn an average round of play into an immensely satisfying bone sesh—and that’s true for trying to make your partner squirt. You’ll want to use your fingers or a toy for stimulation, says Gigi Engle, A.C.S., a certified sex educator and lead intimacy expert at 3Fun. Do you want your partner to squirt for their sake, since you want them to have the most pleasurable sexual experience possible? If it’s the latter, then you and your partner shouldn’t attempt squirting.
If you’re skilled enough, do this while rubbing your clit. You can also use sex toys to make it easier for yourself to squirt and feel extra pleasure. Your partner will need to be really relaxed and in my personal experience that’s easier to do if I have something else to concentrate on, rather than having my vagina take centre stage. So a 69 position has worked well for me – providing welcome distraction when the pressure of trying to squirt is preventing it from actually happening.
Otherwise, you will be putting a lot of pressure on her bladder, which will make her feel like peeing, taking her out of the moment. As you curl your fingers, you should be applying lots of pressure to her G Spot. Then release this pressure as you’re straightening them out. As you start curling them again, start to apply more pressure. Rubbing her G Spot in a circular motion while maintaining lots of pressure on your fingertip is another option.
When we see it, we then have the expectation that all women should do that because men see that and think, oh wow. It has been projected as normal or indicating that the sex was good. Female ejaculation is a fairly common experience, but not something that gets talked about very often. To compare how to squirt during sex, just think of how many phrases there are for male ejaculation! Show your pelvic floor muscles the respect they deserve. The most superficial layer of your pelvic floor is made of small muscles that play a big role in sexual function.
During climax, when you do have an increase in the amount of secretions that are built up, and then during ejaculation, some of that can be released. There are some women that obviously can do more than others, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s better. It’s a big topic that I have with some of my patients, because I think women feel that they have to do this. But, that’s actually something that has come about because of social perception, which I think actually comes from pornography.